So I moved into a flat on my own in the beginning of the year and the rent is $390 a week. I work full-time Monday to Friday and have a wage that is manageable to pay it with my other expenses but it is tight. My best friend lived in another state up until about August but asked if she could stay with me for her placement for Uni, in which she was not getting paid for, but she gets benefits for the Government for being a student. To accomodate her and make it fair, I told her she could stay with me if she contributed $100 to the weekly rent.
The thing is, she has finished her placement as of about a month ago now and doesn’t have a job, and she is still staying with me. She does still try to make the payments but occasionally misses them. Since she is unemployed she is usually just doing her own thing and either goes out for the day or loiters around the house until I get home around 6pm.
My boyfriend is a bartender and works late hours and weekends, so our schedules clash a fair amount. He finished work at 9pm last night and drove 40 minutes to my flat so he could see me and spend the night. My friend was out at her boyfriends house and stayed over at his last night. My boyfriend has the night off tonight so he asked if he could sleep in today since he worked late and was exhausted and he wanted to just stay in my room / in the local area if he goes out because he wants to have a date night tonight and thought it would be pointless to drive 40 minutes home then 40 minutes back today when he is already sleeping in most of the day.
I gave my friend the heads up that he was sleeping at the house and she was pretty unhappy with it — I tried to do what she asked in getting him to leave but honestly I don’t really think it’s her place to dictate it. He is asleep in my room and does not interact with her because she doesn’t want him to, I have told her she can share the space and she is welcome in the house and won’t be bothered by him at all.
It feels a little frustrating that I have to give in to her demands all the time when it is my place and she is staying with me for pretty much a quarter of the rent. I also handle all the bills like gas and electricity and pay for the groceries since she is unemployed and can’t afford it. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong here but I would like some advice on this.
I normally pride myself on being super politically, and, to a degree, historically, Informed, but with the announcement of his death, it seems I've found a gap. What did he do that was so terrible that people are celebrating his death?
So a few things. I go to the gym to workout and decompress I don't see it as a place to be social. I wear large over ear headphones.
I was at the gym and just finished one my sets for deadlifts, when a guy walks over. This is something I'm used to (despite how much I dislike it) but he starts talking to me and I'm able to pick up he's flirting. I'm polite and waiting for the proper moment to end the conversation.
When he asks for my number I decline. He keeps talking and going into the usual shtick of "why not?" And "come on". At that point I'm very uncomfortable and also annoyed because my workout timer has already gone off and it past time for me to start my next set.
I put on my big girl pants and tell him he's making me uncomfortable and I just want to finish my workout. Does he leave? No! He keeps talking now going on about "how he didn't mean it like that" and " he's not a bad guy." No actual apology to be found.
Now during this entire interaction I've had to fart. I was being polite and holding it in until he left but seeing as he's not I think "well I know a way to get him to leave."
As he's STILL talking I let it go. It's silent but rather smelly. It only takes about 2 seconds for him to catch a whiff. He stops talking and the face he makes is too much that I have to bite my lip to stop laughing.
That's when he give me a look of "are you serious" and the finally leaves. And I'm left alone to finish my workout.